Best Places For Break-Ups
As Neil Sedaka once sang, ‘breaking up is hard to do.’ If your relationship is on the skids and there is no saving it, it is important for you to know ahead of time what you are going to say and where you are going to do it. Breaking up with a bit of class, and as maturely as possible lets the other person save face. Giving some thought about where to break up makes things just a little easier on both of you.
Rule number one should be, without question, to always break up in person. Unless you are stuck on a freighter in the middle of the Arctic Ocean, every effort should be made to do it face to face. Skip the temptation to write an email, or to text, which has to be the cruelest thing ever. Don’t post something on Facebook, or send a tweet either. Stay away from using any kind of electronic media. It is the cowardly way out.
It is best to do the break up in a public place. Try to think of a place that is neutral and one that is safe, yet not so safe that they feel comfortable to scream, yell, or throw a scene. A coffee shop can be a good place if you are sure there won’t be any histrionics. A place like a park can be good because if you need to talk a bit, a park bench can be a place where you can be alone but still in a public place. It also gives one of you plenty of room for an exit. If you are sure that you will feel comfortable, you can do it at his place. Just make sure to state your piece, listen to the reaction, answer the questions, then leave quietly.
There are some places that are definitely not good for calling it all off. Never break it off when the two of you are on vacation. One person can storm off to an unfamiliar place, you may get guilted into a rebound, or you may be uncomfortably stuck sharing a room for a couple days. Never break up in a car. First of all, it is moving, and you have nowhere to escape. And secondly, it can be dangerous to be driving and trying to handle such an emotionally charged conversation. It is just not safe.
If the two of you work together, do not do it at the office. Even if you try to be private, work mates will know something is going on. It will create work tension, and it is just bad form to air dirty laundry at work. Above all, don’t initiate a break-up at your home. You are contained in those four walls, and you cannot escape or make a graceful exit. The break-up discussion can go on for hours because there is nowhere for you to go. If you have decided to keep it private, go to his house.
Keep things civil, try to keep the situation dignified, and treat your soon to be ex right, and that will help make the break-up more bearable.