Creating Emotional Attraction
Lust is a powerful emotion. When you see a guy that triggers those feelings and the two of you make that connection, every fiber of your being feels like you are on fire. After awhile though, even though the two of you are enjoying marathon sessions in the bedroom, there will be something lacking in the relationship. An emotional attraction is far more important than just a physical attraction if you want to have a long lasting relationship. There are several things you can do to create the emotional connection between you and your guy.
The first and most important way to create an emotional connection is to be yourself. Let him see the real you, not the person you think he wants. A woman who is comfortable in her own skin and who has confidence in herself is as sexy as knowing all the right moves to make in bed. Let him know your dreams and goals in life. Do not wear him out by endlessly talking about yourself, but show him that you trust him enough to let him know your deepest needs, fears and dreams.
Learn about his passions as far as hobbies and interests, and show that you would like to take part in them if he want to. Listen to him talk about the things he loves to do and really show that you want to know more. By finding out about his likes and dislikes, it helps you both find some common interests. It also lets you see more of his character and helps you know what makes him tick.
Communication is so vital to creating an emotional connection. By making him feel comfortable, he can be secure about opening up about his feelings. Learn to be supportive without judgement, and give him your full attention. Being a good listener is an art. You want to make that person know that he has your total attention, and when he confides in you, you can give him total respect for what he is feeling.
Having a good communication relationship is all about knowing when to be there to listen when he is ready to talk, and having the patience not to pressure him to open up until he is ready.
Trust is a valuable part to any emotional attraction. One way to build trust is to share in an activity that is new and challenging to you both, like taking flying lessons, or learning to do some rock climbing. Doing things that involve supporting each other helps to make those emotional bonds stronger. Trust is also developed over time by using your communication skills and getting to know each other more and more. Building trust happens in layers. The more feelings you and he confide in with respect, the deeper the feelings of trust get.
Physical attraction is the easy part to a developing relationship, but creating emotional attraction takes some patience, understanding and work. The two of you will build upon that attraction to make the foundation of your relationship. As your emotional connection deepens, so will your love for each other.