Do Men Ever Really Make a Commitment and Stay Faithful?
If you find yourself going from one short-term relationship to another and have heard far too many stories of men cheating on their wives and girlfriends, you may wonder if it’s even possible for men to make a long-term commitment and stay faithful to that commitment. Why is it so difficult for some men to settle down and to stay true in a relationship, and how can you find a man that will?
The first answer is that yes, men can make a commitment and stay faithful to that commitment. Hollywood is full of short-term marriages and cheating scandals, but there are also many famous couples who have been married or committed to one another for decades, with no hint of scandal between them. Paul Newman was married to Joanne Woodward for over fifty years before his death, Dustin Hoffman has been married to his wife Lisa since 1980, and Denzel Washington to his wife Paulette since 1983. Other men in Hollywood who have made long-term commitments and stuck to them include Christopher Walken who has been married to his wife Georgianne since 1969, and James Garner who has been married to his wife Lois since 1956. Kurt Russell has been committed to Goldie Hawn since 1983, and the list could go on.
One reason for many men to stray is that they may not have been ready for marriage in the first place. When problems arise or they get bored, rather than working on the relationship as they should, they look elsewhere. Men who do this are not the type to stay in a relationship long-term, but men who don’t have a wandering eye and restless spirit in the first place may be a better husband in the long run.
Another reason for men to struggle with a long-term commitment is that they don’t have strong family values and may be the type to live for themselves. When children come along, men may resent the intrusion into their life and rather than being committed to the work and responsibility of a family, they find a quick and easy relationship without the work and sacrifices involved.
While these factors may be true for many men, not all men are the same. Some are happy to commit and understand the responsibilities of a mature relationship, and some are ready for the sacrifices of family and children. These men will be the ones to exhibit these qualities even before marriage. They may be happy to give up their Saturday to do something that makes you happy, or they may be there for their own family when needed. If you want to find a man who will make a long-term commitment to your relationship, find one that has the maturity needed before you even start that relationship!