Feederism As An Abusive Behavior In Relationships
Abusive behavior in relationships is often thought of as men who physically hurt their partner by hitting, beating or other means. There are other forms of abuse which are not easily seen. One form of abuse which has an underground following on the internet is feederism, also called fat fetishism.
Feederism is when a man feeds or watches his partner consume food to an unhealthy weight in order to achieve sexual gratification. This particular form of abuse came into the spotlight when a woman named Donna Simpson made media news by describing how she wanted to go from 600 pounds to 1,000 pounds. One reason she gave for wanting to do it was to please her husband who loved to see her ’round belly’. After making herself available on an internet site and realizing men were paying her to watch her eat, she has abandoned both her husband and the idea of slowly eating herself to death.
Men with this abusive fetish find women who are already emotionally fragile and vulnerable because of being obese, and convince them to embrace their fat and understand that they are sexually attractive just by eating. A whole industry has developed on the internet of women with web cams who get paid to eat or pose in revealing clothing or even nothing at all so these men can get their rocks off.
Men who are into feederism encourage these women, who are probably already saddled with low self esteem issues because of their weight, to eat more and more, telling them how sexually attractive it makes them. These men totally disregard the obvious health risks of a woman being morbidly obese, and many of the men look forward to when the woman will not be able to get around much because of the excessive weight. This makes the woman totally dependent on the ‘feeder’, and completes his abusive dominance over her.
Women who already have issues with their weight and feel unwanted sexually or unloved can leave themselves open for men to abuse them. The internet makes it much easier for a man to find an obese woman through dating sites expressly set up to match a man with an overweight woman. Women eager to experience a relationship may not see the warning signs that they are being abused by being told that it is okay to gain weight and to eat lots of food. In fact, they are encouraged to do just that. A woman may think she is being accepted for the way she is, when in fact, she is being used and degraded.
If you find yourself involved in an unhealthy relationship like this or know someone who is, there are therapists who can help. When Donna Simpson came to the realization that she needed help to stop the abusive cycle, she sought the help of therapists and successfully responded to hypnotherapy to get her back on the path to good health and self confidence, and you can too.