Guide to Sexting
Sexting can be a fun way to spice up your love life with your boyfriend, husband or your friend with benefits. It can be dangerous or embarrassing to sext with a new date or casual friend. We have all heard of the horror stories of nude photos and sexts being shared, so be absolutely sure you sext with someone you trust. Sexting can make a woman feel sexy and is a good way to do something different in your relationship. You may feel freer saying something racy by text than you would saying it in person, but it may lead to some embarrassment. Follow these simple guidelines to sext yourself to a better sex life.
If you are in a new relationship, hold off on the sexting. You need to know the guy before going there comfortably. After about three months, you can test the waters by sexting something along the lines of ‘I’m making dinner for you…naked.’ His response will guide your next responses.
Turn off autocorrect. Nothing can kill a mood more than trying to sext only to spell a word wrong and have your phone autocorrect it into nonsense. ‘I can’t wait to caress your baboons!’ just does not set the mood.
Sexting may make you feel free to get down and dirty, but it can come off as being skanky, raunchy, or worse, even clinical. Consider the tease sext or a flirty sext. A little mystery is good, even in a sext. Saying ‘You were a beast last night, I can’t wait for tonight!’, lets him know you want more without getting x-rated.
Resist sending nude or graphic pictures. A tasteful picture in scanty clothing is okay if you do not reveal more than if you were in a bikini. Texts can be forwarded, be uploaded, and can be accidentally viewed. If he asks you to sext a photo, tell him no, but you will be glad to show him what he wants when he comes home.
Drunk texting is not sexy. No matter how clever or bold you think you are, your addled mind is tricking you. Alcohol can help release inhibitions but it can also cause you to have deep regrets the next day. Having one drink to loosen your fingers is okay, but turn off your cell phone if you are going to have a few.
Delete your racier texts. No one needs to know your business or see your business, so get in the habit of regularly deleting texts you sent in case your phone gets in the wrong hands. And to safeguard yourself from anyone seeing your texts on your guy’s phone, do not send anything you do not want his mates to see. Set your phone so your texts do not pop up on your screen. People often glance at a screen when they hear that you have a message. Safeguard yourself from people peeking at your sexts.
Think twice about sexting if you hold a prominent position in your community, church or workplace. There are too many stories out there about people in the public eye’s sexts going public.
The bottom line is use common sense and protect yourself so you can have fun but stay safe.