He Has Doubts About Your Relationship – What You Can Do
You have been seeing this guy for over a year and you both love being with each other, have a lot of common interests, and have a great mutual sexual attraction. You are starting to feel like it is time to plan a future together, until he confides in you that he has some doubts about your relationship. Don’t panic! For most couples, this is a natural occurrence when things get very serious, and with some hard work and communication, you can make it over this relationship hurdle. Here are some steps to take to help ease his doubt and have faith in you again.
Fall in Love Again
Remember that feeling when you two first met? Think about how you both felt and work to recreate that feeling. Have you both started to take each other for granted? Pay attention to your appearance and take some time to look just a little more special for him. Cook him his favorite meal, make plans to see his favorite band, or spontaneously buy for him that book he’s been meaning to read. Act flirtatious like when you first were finding out about each other. When he talks, truly listen to what he has to say. Find the magic that’s been lacking and make an effort to put it back in the relationship.
Talk to Him
When a man tells you he is beginning to doubt your relationship, it is important to get to the bottom of what is really bothering him. Set a time aside when there are no disruptions, and tell him you want to understand what he is feeling. You will have to be sure not to react to anything he says with anger, and don’t belittle issues he brings up. Don’t be accusatory and try not to act hurt when he brings up a touchy subject. Truly listen to him, and try to look at things from his perspective and make an absolute effort to be objective. Talking things out may help him realize that it is normal for a couple to go through some ups and downs.
Don’t Cry and Cling to Him
When a man has doubts, the worst thing that you can do is amplify his fears by carrying on about how lost you will be without him. Begging, crying all the time and acting clingy will most likely turn him off and do the very thing you are begging him not to do. You will only be confirming his worst fears about your relationship. Try to stay calm and strong, and tell him you want to work on this together. Keep a sense of dignity. If the relationship ends up broken, you will know you stayed true to yourself.
It Takes Some Time
After talking things out, give him some time to sift through his feelings. Don’t be constantly at his side, because some distance is good. If he is the man for you, he will be back at your side soon. If he is not, it is hard to see but remember that you deserve a man who knows in his heart that he truly loves you.