He’s Always Flirting But Nothing Else … What to Do?
Do you know a very attractive man that seems to always be flirting with you, but who never does anything else? You may know him at work or in a class you’re taking or it may be someone you see regularly at the gym or library. This man may be very friendly and complimentary, and may seem to have a genuine interest in you. However, what happens when he never does anything beyond flirting?
There may be a few reasons why this attractive guy never makes his move or does anything but flirt with you. One reason may be that he’s just a flirt in general and isn’t really interested in starting a relationship with you or dating. Try to notice how he is with other women, either at work or the gym, and see if he’s very flirtatious with them. If so, this may be a signal that he’s a player and just enjoys flirting, and nothing more.
Another reason he may not do anything but flirt is that he’s not confident enough to ask you out or get your phone number. He may be simply testing the waters of how you respond, or may not be sure of how to take things to the next level. Most men are very afraid of rejection no matter how confident they appear, and flirting is much safer than actually asking out a woman.
In cases like this, you may need to take the initiative to move things along. You might need to invite him out for coffee or ask if he’s like to exchange email addresses. You could mention that you have concert tickets or tickets to another event coming up and see if he wants to join you. These are easy ways to move the flirting to something else.
It may be too that you don’t respond in a way that encourages him to do anything but flirt. You may think you’re being coy but he might think you’re being standoffish. This will only discourage him from asking you out. You might think it’s cute to joke about his outfit or hair or something else about him, but again, he takes these things personally and may think that you’re not truly interested in him. He may still be flirting because he likes certain things about you, but may be hesitant to do anything more.
Another possibility is that you’re reading too much into his behavior. What you see as flirting, he sees as just being nice. He’s being pleasant and conversational, but you assume he has an interest in you. Take an honest look at your conversations and interactions and note if perhaps you’re being presumptuous. This can tell you if you should initiate something more or just leave things as they are.