How to Forget Him and Move On
Have you just broken up and you are struggling to let him go? Was he the love of your life and you now feel completely lost without him? Breaking up is never easy and often the first thing that you are told is “you will find somebody else”. Whilst this is true and deep down you know it is true, it is definitely not what you want to hear.
You don’t want anybody else and you certainly don’t want to move on. What if he realizes that he made a mistake? After all, he couldn’t have really meant that he wanted to finish it could he? Denial is a very common emotion that we feel in the beginning of a break-up.
We cling on to any little hope that things can go back to how they were. Whilst it is normal to feel this way, it is also important to realize when it is time to let go and move on.
Step Number One: Eliminate All Evidence of Him from Your Life
Many women find it helpful to get rid of everything that reminds them of their ex. Photographs in particular should be thrown away. It can be extremely tempting to reminisce about old times and looking at old photos constantly. This isn’t healthy and getting rid of them prevents you from doing this.
Why not burn them? This can be a really liberating experience! Once all of his possessions are gone, you can then start to rebuild your life.
Step Number Two: Don’t Try to Forget Him Completely
You need to understand that your ex was a big part of your life. Therefore it is not possible to completely forget about him. Accept that you will still remember things. If you try to force yourself to not think about him then you will only hurt when you do.
It can actually be a good idea to remember certain things in the relationship. After most break-ups we tend to romanticise the relationship. We see only the good things and remember the good times that we shared with the other person.
What about the bad things? The times when you argued? What about the things that he did wrong? There is a reason why the relationship didn’t work and he wasn’t a saint! Think about the bad things as well as the good and it will give you a much clearer picture of him and the relationship.
Step Number Three: Take it One Day at a Time
This is potentially the most important tip of all. You really will need to take every day as it comes. Some days will be harder than others and there will be times when you will miss him. Accept that you will have bad days and that sometimes you will need to go easy on yourself. It will get easier and you will move on. Just keep remembering the bad things about him and remind yourself that you deserve better.
If you follow the above tips then you will eventually start to feel better. Everybody is different so take the steps only when you feel ready to and not because you feel pressurized into doing it.