How To Make Eye Contact With Your Secret Love
It’s always hard to take the first step to try to make contact with your secret love, but if you are shy, it can be an insurmountable problem. Eye contact is the best way to initiate some interest and even the shiest person should be able to handle it. There is an art to locking eyes with someone and having them able to understand your meaning. Here are some tips about how to exchange eye contact with your crush, and what to do once you’ve signaled him that you are interested.
Where you see your secret love can be a key to how to handle eye contact. Are you passing him on the way to work or school? If you only see him for a fleeting moment, you want to start looking straight into his eyes as he passes with a slight smile. Do that for a couple of days. On about the third day, look him in the eye and give him a broad smile, not a big grin, but an I’m interested smile. Presuming that he has noticed and is smiling back every day, you will want to graduate to saying hello as he passes. By this time, you should be able to get a feeling on whether he is interested or not. If he holds your gaze, and smiles back in a flirting way, or a way that seems to indicate he wants more, then he is interested. If he gives you a nod, avoids eye contact, and grunts as you go by, it’s time to look for a new crush.
If you see the guy you want to meet in a coffee shop or at school or work where there is time for prolonged interaction, start out with some lingering eye contact and a slight smile. The next time, repeat the same, making sure to hold the eye contact for a couple seconds, but not long enough so he thinks you are a stalker. Now that you have established eye contact, the next time, maintain the same and say hello with a nice smile. Again, by now you should be getting some nonverbal feedback from him if he is interested or not. Eyes averted or down, or barely acknowledging you is a clear cut way for him to close the door on meeting you. If he seems to respond quickly, and actually seems to even be looking for you, it may be time to start a small conversation. You don’t need an elaborate discussion or a flirty come-on line, but simply mentioning about the lines at the coffee shop, or asking him if he is prepared for that exam should open the door for more dialog.
Now that you have laid out the ground work and set the tone for him, it is his turn to initiate more conversation or even to ask you out. You could be on the road to a new relationship or just a new friendship, but be proud of taking that first step no matter what the outcome is.