Improve Your Mood By Doing Something Nice Every Day
When you’re in a bad mood, the last thing you may want to do is something nice for someone else. Often bad moods are caused by other people; you may have been cut off in traffic or your boss yelled at you or the cable company raised your rates yet again. With so many people doing things to you that put you into a bad mood, why would you want to do nice things for others and how does this boost your mood?
First consider that the people you do nice things for typically aren’t the ones who’ve hurt you or irritated you throughout the day. That favorite aunt who could used a phone call, or a neighbor who is a single mother and struggling to pay her bills aren’t the people you’re mad at. There’s no reason to give up doing nice things for them just because a stranger cut you off in traffic.
Another consideration is that the people you can be nice to every day may be going through difficult times themselves. They too may have a difficult boss or are facing a higher cost of living or may be lonely and frustrated with life. They may deserve someone, even a complete stranger doing something nice for them because they’ve put up with quite a bit throughout their day.
Doing nice things for others can boost your mood, so consider the benefit to yourself. When you do something nice you get a good feeling about yourself. Often a person will get into a bad mood or get frustrated with little things that happen in their life because they lack self-esteem and a sense of self-worth. When your boss snaps at you, it can hurt more if you already feel bad about yourself. For someone with self-esteem, passing comments and minor irritations aren’t as bothersome. When you do things for others, you feel better about yourself so that life’s minor irritations are just that, minor. This puts you in a better mood overall.
When you do nice things for those in need you may also be able to put your own problems in better perspective. You may be bothered by your job or the fact that your cable is a bit more expensive this month, but when you work at a homeless shelter you realize how nice it is that you have a job and can afford a luxury like cable. When you see that your life is not as bad as you think, and not as bad as someone else’s, you may be in a better mood. These are just a few reasons why you might consider doing things for other people especially when you find yourself in a bad mood.