Should I Propose To A Man?
You know you want to spend the rest of your life with your partner but he has not popped the question. Everything about your relationship seems to pointing in the direction of marriage except he has not asked you yet. Why not ask him to marry you? More women feel in these modern times that they can step outside the mold and do what feels right to get a commitment from their partner. If you feel that it is time to move forward, and you feel confident enough to buck a centuries old tradition, here are some pointers to get your man to say yes.
Step back and take a good look at your relationship to be sure you are not looking at it through rose colored glasses. Do you both talk about the future, or is it only you who brings it up? Has he sent any negative vibes when you do talk about spending your life together? It’s important to feel as confident as possible that this is the path you both want to take, not the path you wish both of you will take.
Make sure you aren’t stealing his thunder. Has he been sending out any signals about marriage? Think about conversations you have had. If he talks about how happy your married friends are, or if he has recently been talking about children and the future and how you will grow old together, he may be getting ready to propose. If so, hold off on asking him, and let him have his moment.
Be prepared that he may not like the idea of you proposing at all. As much as men feel enlightened, there is still the cave man mentality lurking inside almost all of them. Just how much it may bother him is something only they know for sure, but if you know your guy well enough, you should have a good idea. Many men may be knocked aback at first, but are comfortable enough to accept it.
Now that you have decided to take this step, plan out just what you are going to say and where. Think about a place that means a lot to the both of you and where you can talk uninterrupted. Erase the ideas of where you would have liked him to propose and concentrate on something you know he would like. If he has a favorite spot near the water where he goes to think, or a favorite hiking spot, think about proposing there. There is no right or wrong thing to say when you pop the question. Tell him how much you love him and why you want to spend the rest of your life with him. Keep it on the brief side, so he is not too overwhelmed.
Be prepared if he says no. It may happen, and you don’t want to throw a fit or treat him coldly if he turns you down. If he declines, treat him with grace and acceptance, and listen to what he has to say.
He may need some time to think it over, so let him know that it’s okay and you’ll be waiting if he decides to say yes.