Should I, Shouldn’t I?
August 2, 2010 by femguide In Category Career & Self Improvement
There are many reasons that prod you into considering leaving your job. A big indication things are not right is if you don’t feel excitement and enthusiasm at the start of the day. You simply go through the motions. There’s no drive. Perhaps the company you work for is experiencing a downturn and your position may be terminated. Perhaps you know there is nothing more of value you have to offer as its all been done – by you. If you are an ambitious woman, these feelings can be hard to deal with.
A woman accustomed to being in control of her life feels insecure being indecisive. It is in her nature to take action. The good news is you should never go against your natural instinct. You must take action before you are in a situation you can’t control. The main reason women don’t take control is because they fear not finding a suitable replacement job. This is understandable.
It is important to know the chance of finding a replacement job through traditional channels is pretty low. Ask any woman who has recently tried to find a new job and she will confirm the most effective way to find employment is via people you know. This is when you need to organize your networking.
Think about changing your job as a way to find out what you really want. A good means of making sense of your thoughts and feelings is to keep written notes. A journal may be helpful. Admittedly, it is hard for many of us to know exactly what we want. Not everybody wants the same thing throughout their entire career. Think about what you want right now. Deciding what you want for the rest of your life may be too daunting and distracting.
Use the strengths of your present job as a means of expanding your future possibilities. Avoid another job that entails the issues you don’t enjoy. Make a clean break. Make a list of your weaknesses and also your strengths. The ideal position would be one that allows you to use your strengths. Make another list of all the skills you’ve acquired. Now list your talents. Some of us have a single talent while others have more. Where possible, find ways to use your talent. An accountant can’t sing at work but she can sing at social events.
Once you have an idea of what you are looking for, it’s time to network. List all your contacts whether personal or business. Start calling one at a time. The reason you include personal contacts is because they may know someone, who knows someone, looking for what you have to offer. When you speak to business contacts try to set up an appointment. A good approach is to ask for some advice. This does not come across as pushy.
It’s important to understand networking is organic and grows. You have to carefully and constantly cultivate it by keeping in touch. You want a network that is ever expanding around a core group of ‘mentors’. Regular contact does not mean constantly calling. Appropriately timed quality calls result in growth.
Just because you are networking to find a new position doesn’t mean you have to be the needy one all the time. As new contacts enter into your network, you will also be asked to mentor and assist other women in need. Be generous and you will make contacts that are long lasting. When you do get the job you want, express your gratitude to every person who helped you on your way.