Should You Try Couple’s Therapy?
When your relationship is in obvious trouble, you may want to reconsider “throwing in the towel” and calling it quits. You have many options available for help, including couple’s therapy. One reason that couple’s therapy helps is that both partners have a chance to talk, uninterrupted and in a safe environment, about their feelings and their concerns.
A therapist can help each person to see problems from the other person’s point of view, and help them get past communication roadblocks that keep them from talking calmly and rationally to one another. A good couple’s therapist can also help each person to understand how their behavior affects the other so they may be motivated to make changes. As an example, a woman may not realize how emasculated her husband feels when she takes complete control of the family finances and dictates how much he can spend throughout the week.
She may see it as being helpful and responsible, but he may find it insulting, as if he’s a child given an “allowance” and not an adult to be trusted with money. Once a partner sees how their behavior is interpreted, they can be motivated to take those feelings into account and change their damaging behaviors.
The right couple’s therapy can also strengthen a relationship; a therapist will often encourage couples to take time for themselves away from the children and jobs, to discover new activities they enjoy doing together, and to simply reconnect as a couple. He or she may also encourage healthy behaviors such as letting go of past hurts and not allowing outsiders to interfere with or hurt the relationship.
A person should never hesitate to at least try couple’s therapy when their relationship is in danger. It can be an eye-opener as to how problems have developed in the relationship and how to handle them effectively, and can save the relationship you’ve worked so hard to build.