The Allure and Danger of Sexual Affairs
When people talk about having affairs, very often they assume it’s the man who is thinking of straying, or who has already strayed. In truth, women have their fair share of sexual liaisons even when they’re in a committed relationship, although they may not stray as often as men. What is the allure of these sexual affairs and why do we fall into them even when we know they’re dangerous, and just how dangerous can they be?
One part of their appeal may be the ‘forbidden fruit,’ that is, we enjoy something more if we know we’re not supposed to be doing it. Humans have a rebellious streak in them that doesn’t go away even when we grow up, so being with someone when we’re cheating can be more enjoyable simply because it is cheating. Like a child sneaking out of the house at night, the risk of getting caught can be fun and exciting in and of itself.
Sexual affairs can also be very alluring because they’re new and different. Being with one partner for some time can mean letting your sex life fall into a rut. You may wind up having sex the same way over and over again with this person, and it can get dull and tedious. Being with someone new means surprises every step of the way as you don’t know how they’re going to touch you or what they have planned. You can also surprise that other person, as your boyfriend or husband knows all your moves by now and has seen you in all your sexy lingerie to this point! Having an affair can make you feel attractive and needed and sexual, feelings you may be missing in your current relationship.
As exciting and alluring as all these factors may be, sexual affairs are also very dangerous. For one thing, you’re risking your current relationship as well as your relationship with your children, friends and family. None of them may want to stay by your side if they find out that you’ve been unfaithful to your husband or boyfriend and especially to their father. Your current relationship may also offer you many positive things above and beyond a few minutes of sexual passion, including security and stability, a good friendship, and most of all, true love.
You may also be risking contracting a sexually transmitted disease or getting pregnant by your lover if you’re not careful. You also may not know this person as well as you think; they may become overly attached to you and even threaten you with exposure. If you have an affair with someone at work, you might be charged with sexual harassment. None of these things are worth their risk, especially in exchange for a few minutes of passion.