Tips for Teen Girls About Using a Condom
If you’re a teen girl that is sexually active or considering your first sexual encounter, you need to think about birth control and protection from sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). You also need to get your information from reliable medical sources, not from rumors you hear at school, and you need take responsibility for protecting yourself and your partner.
Using a condom is one of the best ways to guard against an unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. They’re affordable and easy to use and very discreet; you don’t need a doctor’s prescription or medical exam to get condoms and you can take them with you anywhere.
However, what happens if your boyfriend is resistant to the idea of wearing a condom? Some boys don’t want to use a condom because they think that they will cut down on some of the sensation for them, because they think they look stupid, or because they think a ‘real man’ doesn’t use condoms. How do you deal with this situation?
One thing to remember is that sexually transmitted diseases are very real and very risky. Some can lead to infertility, infections, or even blindness, and diseases like HIV and AIDS are deadly. Never believe anyone who tells you that you can’t get an STD during your first sexual encounter, that AIDS is ‘all gone,’ or that they can protect yourself by withdrawing early. If you fully understand the risks involved with unprotected sex, you will be more insistent about having your boyfriend wear a condom.
If your boyfriend is resistant because he’s afraid he’ll lose some sensation during sex or because he thinks they look stupid, keep in mind that the risk factors of pregnancy and STDs are far more important than how he looks. Tell him that you don’t care how he looks, as long as the two of you are safe. Most condoms today are very thin and ribbed so that he won’t have a loss of sensation, so this too should not be an issue.
For boys who think that a ‘real man’ doesn’t wear a condom or who tries to intimidate or bully you into going without one, you need to think seriously about having a relationship with this type of person in the first place. A ‘real man’ is one that protects himself and those around him, not one that puts them in any type of danger. Would a ‘real man’ dangle you off a cliff or drive a car right at you? Certainly not, and these types of dangerous behaviors are abusive. Anyone that would risk an STD or pregnancy because he doesn’t want to wear a condom and that would try to intimidate you into any risky behavior of any sort is someone you should avoid.
Always be insistent about anything and everything when it comes to your body and your safety, and if he stubbornly refuses, it’s good to simply refuse to have sex with him until he wears a condom.