What To Do When Your Husband Behaves Like A Child
You love your husband for his youthfulness, his playing around with the kids, his carefree attitude, but when he acts childish all the time you need to have some strategies to get him to realize he is an adult and needs to act like one. You are the one left cleaning up his messes both literally and figuratively so he needs to realize that the behavior can be destructive. Here are some ideas to help you deal with his childish ways.
When your husband starts to act like a child, you have probably gotten into the habit of responding like a parent, not a partner, and it is a vicious cycle to break. Take a hard look at how you treat him when he does not do something. Do you nag and bug him to get it done, and even threaten punishment if he does not? When he knows he is going to get in trouble for not doing something, he will use even more childish behaviour and lie about it so he does not displease you. Banish the mom talk and talk to him like an adult. It will not happen overnight but over time it will help break the cycle.
Instead of pointing out what he did not do, like put his dirty clothes in the hamper, tell him that you need his help teaching the kids by him being a good role model. Focus on how he can be an example, not the problem. Or if you do not have children, just tell him how much it helps you when he cleans up after himself. Keep your cool, do not berate, but be firm and talk to him like an adult.
Some things he does have to have firm limits. If he is out tipping a pint with his buddies and forgets he has a school event with his kids, you have to lay down the law. Acting childish and acting selfish go hand in hand, and you have to be firm in telling him that there are others in his life and he needs to be considerate and has to put your needs and the kids, if you have them, before his own. With a relationship come obligations, and he has to meet them. Let him know that for the relationship to work, he needs to be an equal partner.
Let him indulge in his childish side sometimes. When he is with his mates, he can be as childish as he wants, as long as it is within the law, and he gets it all out of his system before he gets home. Some men need an outlet and if he knows you are in support of the camaraderie he has with his mates, that helps a lot. If you have children, let his childish side come out at play time or when they are all just spending time together. The kids will love it, and will grow up being that much richer from having a great bond with their dad.