It’s Important That Children Spend Time With Their Grandparents
Children should be able to form a special bond with their grandparents. Encourage your children to spend time with them, which will help foster a close relationship. Some of the ways you can help to keep the bond strong is to set up times for your children to visit their grandparents, have grandparents watch the children alone sometimes, and both of you spending the holidays together. The most important reason to keep the bonds strong is because grandparents can have a very positive influence on their grandchildren’s lives.
Grandparents can help strengthen family values in children. Telling their grandchildren stories about family history is one way to instill pride in family members and help them understand what their parents were like when they were young. Kids love nothing more than hearing silly stories about their parents, and the ‘good old days’. When they talk about how their mom babysat at a young age, worked as a waitress while in high school, and put herself through college by working every weekend, the grandparents are focusing on her great work ethic, and teaching them that you can do anything by working for it. These stories give the kids a sense of who they are.
Teaching hobbies or skills that the grandparents have helps kids find out what they like. If a grandfather loves woodworking and involves his grandchild in a project, he can teach that child to love the process of making things with your own hands. Working together to make something instills pride, a sense of accomplishment, and helps form a great bond between the two of them. A grandmother who loves to bake breads and cookies can pass down her skills to the child, and teach them valuable skills they can use for the rest of their lives.
Grandparents can help children when their parents are going through a tough time, a separation or a divorce. Kids should be made to feel it is not their fault and the grandparent – grandchild bond will not be broken no matter what happens between the parents. Kids also can have a confidant that they may feel more comfortable talking to when it come to those awkward subjects they hate talking to parents about.
In families where there is more than one child, the grandparents can make a special effort to spend quality time with each child by themselves. Having their own time just with the grandparents helps kids feel special. Grandparents can do something that means a lot to that particular child, like working on a favorite hobby or taking them someplace they love.
Often, the grandparents have the resources to take the kids someplace special on vacation. This time alone should be treasured because it gives each one undivided attention without the parents. Most grandparents tend to spoil kids a little, and as long as it does not create conflicts with the parents, it’s a healthy way for the kids to enjoy something special.
Take the time and effort to be sure your child has a special relationship with your parents. It can help your child develop into the adult you want them to be.